July 24th, 2015
(written by lawrence krubner, however indented passages are often quotes). You can contact lawrence at: firstname.lastname@example.org
I am surprised that advice columns are still surviving in newspapers. Of course, I’m also surprised that newspapers still exist. Carolyn Hax offers relationship advice at the Washington Post:
You probably don’t want to hear it, and I certainly don’t like saying it to someone who is engaged, but you don’t sound terribly well suited to each other. All relationships involve some accommodation, but not so much that you feel like you have to draw and hold awkward lines just because one of you deserves to win one this single stinkin’ time.
Fundamentally like each other, and enjoy each other, as-is, and suddenly stuff like where one’s hand is when spooning is not a hill either of you has to die on.
I haven’t even started on the idea of “one of the main ways he has of expressing and finding closeness with me.” If it’s that important (and not just a stunning failure of flexibility and imagination), then it sounds as if he should find someone who likes it.
On the one hand, the tone is modern, frank, bold and almost shocking in its bluntness. On the other hand, there are a million websites where people talk about relationships, so who is who still turns to a columnist at the Washington Post?Source