Breaking into your boyfriend’s email to find if he is cheating on you

(written by lawrence krubner, however indented passages are often quotes). You can contact lawrence at: lawrence@krubner.com, or follow me on Twitter.

This is from Slashdot, from perhaps 2002 or 2003. I tried to find this using Google, but Google failed me:

Posted by CmdrTaco
From the it-happened-again dept.
SyD writes: “Apparently there is a major security hole on Hotmail that could allow crackers to read your e-mail. A hacking group known as root core discovered the hole and reported it to Microsoft.“

This isn’t the first time that the folks who are gonna give us a internet wide universal login system had a hole. The funny part is that I posted a story almost exactly like this like 2 years ago, and about once a week, someone emails me and says “I think my boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating on me and I really need to know the backdoor into hotmail to find out”. No I’m not kidding. You can’t make that stuff up.

This has become a normal part of modern romance. Here is an article that was just published, on the same subject:

We dated for four years, appearing to most people to be the couple on the way to the altar. We were great at dinner parties, with funny stories that ebbed and flowed as we performed our “perfect couple” act. Our humor was so perfectly matched that people told us they were jealous that we’d found one another. Behind closed doors, my closest friends were worried about me. I was wasting away and clinging fiercely to the source that was destroying me.

In our third year of dating, he told me that we needed to take a break from one another. I was sitting on his couch in his high school football T-shirt when he told me that our fights were unhealthy and we needed to hit pause. I asked him if this meant we’d be seeing other people and he said no, he just needed some quiet time to himself. I asked him if we’d get back together and he said he loved me but he wasn’t sure.

I walked home to my apartment where my roommate went into full girlfriend help mode. She sat with me on our couch as I explained everything that happened and sobbed that the love of my life was leaving me. She was stunned because she had only seen the perfect couple from the outside and asked if it was possible he had met someone else. Her question became my obsession.

I spent days walking around campus, expecting to bump into my boyfriend on the streets, caressing the face of a new girl. I knew that I needed answers. If I asked him directly he’d deny it, and my fears and anxiety were not going away. So after hours of trying to convince myself not to break into his e-mail, I caved in. His user name and password were saved on my computer, daring me to know what was going on. When I got into his inbox I felt like a bank robber, violating every rule of common decency.

I discovered an e-mail trail between my boyfriend and the girl from his class. He had invited her over mere hours after he told me that we were on a break. They had been flirtatious for a month and he apologized in one e-mail for calling her late at night and drunk.

“Can I make up for my drunken phone call with a dinner date?” he asked.

I didn’t confront him on it immediately. I kept the affair in my back pocket to be used at a later time. I relished my role as the victim in our relationship and needed him to be the bad guy.

That summer, I went to London while he stayed at home. We agreed to see where we were when I got back. I benefited from the international separation, where I was not tied down to being the girl I thought I was back in the States. Before I got back home I called my on-hold boyfriend to tell him I didn’t want to be with him anymore. I told him that there was nothing left for us to figure out. He picked me up when I landed at O’Hare at the end of the summer and begged me to take him back.

I’d like to say we ended things gracefully but we let our relationship continue to rot. Our union was a dance of two veteran boxers who kept fighting long after it was time to leave the ring. At the height of one of our epic battles I finally blurted out that I knew what he had done with his student. I admitted I had checked his e-mail so there was no denying it anymore. We broke up for the last time and he immediately jumped into a relationship with another girl from his class.

This time, however, his student had a boyfriend while he was her “Johnny on the Side.” Through friends I learned that she and my ex-boyfriend ended their affair after he caught her making out with a stranger at a bar.

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    http://www.xojane.com/sex/i-hacked-into-my-boyfriends-e-mail-and-discovered-he-was-cheating
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