November 26th, 2016
(written by lawrence krubner, however indented passages are often quotes). You can contact lawrence at: firstname.lastname@example.org
All of this is hugely disappointing, because Faraci has always presented himself as a feminist and has written extensively about female representation in pop culture, the dearth of female directors, etc. We’ve even quoted him and his work here at TMS. So, to know that he is also someone who may have allegedly committed an assault like the one described in the tweet above is hugely disappointing, because actions like this always feel worse when they come from people you genuinely believe are on your side.
However, there’s something even more disappointing about all of this, and it has nothing to do with Faraci. It has to do with, as @spacecrone says, “all of us.”
As reported by The Daily Dot, when the allegation was made on Twitter, several people spoke out about the fact that allegations like this against Faraci aren’t new, that people have been talking about his behavior for years without anything being done about it:
Devin Faraci has been outed so many damn times. How long until people actually get it? He’s not an ally. https://t.co/ZvMzO6PLAb
— Tess Fowler (@TessFowler) October 9, 2016
Devin Faraci sexually assaults women, tries to goad people into suicide & cyber-stalks basically everyone but sure, fandom is the problem.
— Kayleigh Anne (@Ceilidhann) October 9, 2016
So yes, this is about Faraci needing to take responsibility for his actions and work really hard to make his future actions match up to the feminism he espouses in his writing, but it’s also about every single person who heard about allegations made against Faraci in the past, and ignored them.
The Trump recording wasn’t just about what he said; it was about Billy Bush laughing along and about the incident happening in 2005 with zero repercussions until 2016.
It’s about every time men hear other men talking about women like pieces of meat in private, and say nothing. It’s about both men and women discrediting women who accuse men of sexual assault, rather than listening or comforting them. It’s about all of us caring a little too much about how a rape allegation will affect an alleged rapist’s life, and too little about how the actual rape will affect the victim’s life.
The current moment is a wake-up call. Rape culture is real, and it is sexist in nature. You don’t get people like Trump, Faraci, Nate Parker, and Brock Turner without it. Now, we all have to ask ourselves, what are the ways in which I allow that to go unchecked? When do I keep silent when I shouldn’t? Who in my life has said vile things that I’ve “let slide” because we’re friends? How can I better understand consent (because it’s not just a word, it’s a way of thinking and being)?
This isn’t just about being able to point with satisfaction as one accused man steps down from his job to attempt to repent for his sins. It’s about all of us looking inward and reexamining what we allow. Because we shouldn’t have to wait for a recording or a public accusation on social media to hold people accountable for the myriad ways in which they chip away at women’s safety.