Fundamentalist upbring leads to viewing women as stereotypes

(written by lawrence krubner, however indented passages are often quotes). You can contact lawrence at:

This is a story about a guy who is manipulative and gross. One theme in this story that the author did not follow up on, and I wish she had, was the theme of fundamentalism. The bad guy in this story is named Jared. He grew up in a Christian fundamentalist household, where sex was considered a great sin. Now he is in his 30s, and he is nominally secular, but he continues to see the world in black and white terms. He brings a type of fundamentalism to his understanding of the world. He views women as a collection of stereotypes, he seems unable to see any complexity in them. I wish the author had written more on that theme, the idea of fundamentalism as a kind of child abuse that causes life long damage to one’s world view.

Word of Jared and Jacob’s double life online was spreading across town. Women who’d slept with Jared, including C.’s three friends, found themselves picked apart on his list: “damaged goods”; “headed towards cat lady status”; “not very hot.” Sarah Winkler, a coffee-shop employee who had worked for Jared and Jacob for two and a half years, read their analysis of “female behaviors” and assertions that “logic is not a woman’s strong suit” and immediately quit. Asheville is a small, tight-knit community; pretty much everyone I spoke to knew someone on Jared’s list. “I was so upset, because I had vouched for him,” C. said. “And then it’s like, ‘Who were you? Who are you?’”