What if your husband is secretly an abusive online troll?

(written by lawrence krubner, however indented passages are often quotes). You can contact lawrence at: lawrence@krubner.com, or follow me on Twitter.

A woman discovers her husband’s secret online life:

He left the browser open on our laptop after he went to work this morning. I go to work after, so I usually hop on and do my own things on my real account….I was disgusted at what I found. My husband is a troll. A really fucking nasty troll. He leaves horribly mean comments to all kinds of people. They’re filled with racist slurs, awful insults, he tears into fat people, ugly people, etc. He loves to troll around places like /r/progresspics to discourage people, etc. He’s sent PMs to people to call them names, calls women who post on /r/gonewild sluts and whores and cunts, etc. I was horrified. Completely horrified.

…It made me wonder what else he did on the internet, so I looked at the browser history to find him also harassing teenagers on tumblr. Telling them to kill themselves, calling cute girls ugly and fat and stupid, etc. It horrified me to think this was the man who could be raising our daughter with me in a few months.

…I asked him, flat out, if he was harassing and bullying people online. He said yes, and immediately withdrew. After telling him that I needed to know why — really why, not just “I don’t know”, he said he needed time to think about it.

When he finally gave me his answer, I was disappointed. He said he trolled/bullied people because it was an outlet for him to relieve stress. He said he didn’t view the people as real, or what he was doing as anything other than a joke, and if it hurt feelings, “those people have bigger problems and it’s not my fault.”

…He told me that he wouldn’t be going to counseling, Because there’s nothing wrong with what he’s doing, and he deserved to have his ‘me time’ and release his emotions.

So they break up.

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