You’re so cute

(written by Lawrence Krubner, however indented passages are often quotes)

Interesting

I went to a dinner party at a friend’s home last weekend, and met her five-year-old daughter for the first time. Little Maya was all curly brown hair and doe-like dark eyes, and adorable in her shiny pink nightgown. I wanted to squeal, “Maya, you’re so cute! Look at you! Turn around and model that pretty ruffled gown, you gorgeous thing!” But I didn’t. I squelched myself. I always bite my tongue when I meet little girls, restraining myself from my first impulse, which is to tell them how darn cute/pretty/beautiful/well-dressed/well-manicured/well-coiffed they are.

What’s wrong with that? It’s our culture’s standard talking-to-little-girls icebreaker, isn’t it? And why not give them a sincere compliment to boost their self-esteem? Because they are so darling I just want to burst when I meet them, honestly.

Hold that thought for just a moment.

In June, ABC News America reported that nearly half of all three- to six-year-old girls worry about being fat, while earlier this month, beauty pageants for children landed on Australian shores for the first time. In my book, Think: Straight Talk for Women to Stay Smart in a Dumbed-Down World, I reveal that 15 to 18 per cent of under-12 girls in the United States now wear mascara, eyeliner and lipstick regularly; eating disorders are up, and self-esteem is down; and 25 per cent of young American women would rather win America’s Next Top Model than the Nobel Peace Prize. Even bright, successful, university-educated women say they’d rather be hot than smart. A Miami mother recently died from cosmetic surgery, leaving behind two teenagers. This keeps happening, and it breaks my heart.